Pendampingan pastoral bagi pasangan suami istri yang mengalami konflik yang berakar pada kemarahan dan stress dalam pernikahan

  • Bun Hui Fuaddin Sekolah Tinggi Teologi Cipanas
DOI: https://doi.org/10.51828/td.v11i1.139
Kata Kunci: pendampingan pastoral, pasangan suami istri, konflik, kemarahan, stress, pernikahan

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Artikel ini merupakan sebuah penelitian pustaka yang memaparkan konsep pendampingan pastoral bagi pasangan suami istri yang mengalami konflik dalam pernikahan. Untuk memaparkan hal tersebut, penulis menyajikan pelbagai informasi dari sumber primer berupa wawancara dengan pasangan suami istri  yang mengalami konflik dalam pernikahan. Penulis juga menyajikan informasi dari sumber sekunder terkait topik penelitian yang selanjutnya dipaparkan secara deskriptif. Dari penelitian yang dilaksanakan, Penulis menemukan bahwa konflik yang dialami pasangan suami itu berakar pada kemarahan dan stress.  Pasangan suami istri yang mengalami kemarahan dan stress dalam pernikahan membutuhkan pendampingan pastoral dalam menghadapi situasi dalam kehidupan pernikahan mereka, karena tidak mudah untuk menyelesaikan kedua hal tersebut dengan baik dan sehat. Konseling pastoral untuk menyikapi pasangan suami istri yang mengalami kemarahan dan stress dalam pernikahan perlu diberikan sejak konseling pranikah, saat suami istri mulai mendapati bahwa ada masalah di dalam cara mereka menyelesaikan konflik dan terus diberikan saat mereka mulai menjalani kehidupan pernikahan mereka.

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Saat ini melayani sebagai Hamba Tuhan di Yayasan Eunike Kelapa Gading. Beliau menyelesaikan S1 (S.Kom) pada tahun 1997 di Universitas Bina Nusantara dan menyelesaikan program Magister Teologi (M.Th) di STT Cipanas pada tahun 2021.

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Fuaddin, B. H. (2021). Pendampingan pastoral bagi pasangan suami istri yang mengalami konflik yang berakar pada kemarahan dan stress dalam pernikahan. Te Deum (Jurnal Teologi Dan Pengembangan Pelayanan), 11(1), 125-155. https://doi.org/10.51828/td.v11i1.139
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